Now if you're unfamiliar with the term, peacocking is when there is something about your person that can elicit conversation and act as an icebreaker. Now there's no magic shirt that will all of a sudden get you laid, but there is a base around which you can utilize small things to start a conversation and possibly get a smile. Get a smile, and you've got a promising start to any conversation.
Now if you have a cellphone capable of setting a ringtone, you can set a theme song to a particular good friend, and use that to your advantage. Whenever your friend calls, if there's anyone interesting around, you can use a catch phrase from the song to greet your friend while simultaneously flashing a smile at the girl. This is great because the ringtone gets her attention, you get to smile while making eye contact - and now she's just caught herself looking at you. This is the perfect time to read if she's interested as a lot of people have trouble hiding interest in that half second.
Other methods such as bracelets, hats, shirts and shoes can act as conversation starters as well. Necklaces tend to be fairly standard so getting a comment on one is usually a fairly good indication of interest unless you have a remarkable necklace. Any time you get that extra glance or start a conversation using any of these things you can think to yourself - you didn't even have to buy a porsche.
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Thursday, January 31, 2008
3 Things to Immediately Improve Your Game
1)Be Energetic and Animated
A lot of people think that to get girls they have to be loud and obnoxious like that asshole at the next table that won't stop talking in what is definetly not, and never will be, classified as an 'indoor voice.' A lot of people don't pick up very well either.
Being energetic doesn't mean you have to be loud or obnoxious, it just means you have to be enthusiastic about what you're doing. Don't get carried away and start exclaiming over your morning coffee, but step up the conversational tone from 'listening' to 'involved.' Focus on what you're doing like there's not any other thing you'd rather be doing at the moment.
2)Body Language
People tend to overshoot and undershoot this step. You want to have a confident posture, but you not look like you're waiting for a seargent to come around the corner and be impressed at your vigilant posture. Keep your shoulders back, and head up, but be relaxed. Imagine that your spine is like a puppets string down your back. Be upright, but no need to be a post.
On the other hand, don't look like a rag doll. Your relaxation should be one of ready movement. KNOW that you can move quickly, but CHOOSE to move smoothly.
3)Contact: Combine and build on the first two steps.
Now you're energetic, and you're emanating self-confidence - add some gesturing and you can expan your influence to her. As you talk, get in the habit of making some gestures. Keep your elbows bent when in a conversation, and to emphasize a point, or to see if she agrees, you can simply touch her arm for emphasis. This helps to subconsciously build up a kind of 'trust bank.' She will being to think of you as more friendly, likeable, and start to think of you as different from others.
Employ these three steps all the time, with everyone and it will soon become a natural and effective way to communicate and become close with not only those you are interested in, but people who simply don't know you're their friend yet - if you so choose.
A lot of people think that to get girls they have to be loud and obnoxious like that asshole at the next table that won't stop talking in what is definetly not, and never will be, classified as an 'indoor voice.' A lot of people don't pick up very well either.
Being energetic doesn't mean you have to be loud or obnoxious, it just means you have to be enthusiastic about what you're doing. Don't get carried away and start exclaiming over your morning coffee, but step up the conversational tone from 'listening' to 'involved.' Focus on what you're doing like there's not any other thing you'd rather be doing at the moment.
2)Body Language
People tend to overshoot and undershoot this step. You want to have a confident posture, but you not look like you're waiting for a seargent to come around the corner and be impressed at your vigilant posture. Keep your shoulders back, and head up, but be relaxed. Imagine that your spine is like a puppets string down your back. Be upright, but no need to be a post.
On the other hand, don't look like a rag doll. Your relaxation should be one of ready movement. KNOW that you can move quickly, but CHOOSE to move smoothly.
3)Contact: Combine and build on the first two steps.
Now you're energetic, and you're emanating self-confidence - add some gesturing and you can expan your influence to her. As you talk, get in the habit of making some gestures. Keep your elbows bent when in a conversation, and to emphasize a point, or to see if she agrees, you can simply touch her arm for emphasis. This helps to subconsciously build up a kind of 'trust bank.' She will being to think of you as more friendly, likeable, and start to think of you as different from others.
Employ these three steps all the time, with everyone and it will soon become a natural and effective way to communicate and become close with not only those you are interested in, but people who simply don't know you're their friend yet - if you so choose.
Wednesday, January 23, 2008
Meeting People
A lot of people these days feel lonely and socially stuck in a rut. People feel as if they don't get to meet new people and really connect anymore. If this sounds familiar to you, don't worry, it's actually not a bad thing - it will help motivate you to make a change in your life.
I know people say they don't like change, but change is the spice that keeps life interesting for most people. So how do you meet new people? Two words: common interests.
Look in your life and think to yourself ' what is it that I enjoy but don't do anymore because it requires a partner, spotter, etc. ' If you are physically oriented you might try rockclimbing, yoga, tai-chi, mountain biking, squash or tennis to name a few. Now the partner issue? Well this is where you find a club. Join a club and find out - if it's a partnered sport - what nights are free-for-all. For example, my rockclimbing gym has a bunch of people that go to climb on tuesday nights and everone is free to spot you as you climb. In these situations it's easy to strike up a conversation and if people are going to the gym alone, it means that they're probably single as well.
If you're less of a physical person, you could try dance classes, a bookclub or anything that people discuss - which is pretty much everything.
Once again, finding a way to share experiences with others is an easy way to connect with like-minded people.
I know people say they don't like change, but change is the spice that keeps life interesting for most people. So how do you meet new people? Two words: common interests.
Look in your life and think to yourself ' what is it that I enjoy but don't do anymore because it requires a partner, spotter, etc. ' If you are physically oriented you might try rockclimbing, yoga, tai-chi, mountain biking, squash or tennis to name a few. Now the partner issue? Well this is where you find a club. Join a club and find out - if it's a partnered sport - what nights are free-for-all. For example, my rockclimbing gym has a bunch of people that go to climb on tuesday nights and everone is free to spot you as you climb. In these situations it's easy to strike up a conversation and if people are going to the gym alone, it means that they're probably single as well.
If you're less of a physical person, you could try dance classes, a bookclub or anything that people discuss - which is pretty much everything.
Once again, finding a way to share experiences with others is an easy way to connect with like-minded people.
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