Blast from the Past: Exs

Now I know that almost eveyone, unless they end on a bad note, usually says something along the lines of: 'Let's stay friends though...' and then mysteriously never talk to each other. You might ask yourself 'Why would you say something you don't mean?' Well, when you run into an ex, as you almost inevitably will, this little parting line can do wonders for avoiding a bad scene. Imagine being on a date and running into an ex claiming you stole her stuff, cheated on her and generally ran amok of her life. The ladies don't find this to be a turn-on. So here are a few pointers for ending on a better note:

1) Always try to make her feel as if you're not breaking it off because of her. You can do this by adding a few compliments in.

2)Be firm when you say you need time for yourself to get some things figured out about yourself. You could also say you feel like in order to really be intimate with anyone you need to understand yourself a bit more.

3)If you really have trouble being firm, you can say that you may just need a break, and then later on tell her you realized that you were just two different people, and you don't see it working in the long run. This is a better approach because it shows that you seem to be thinking ahead, but at the same time makes you seem a little less avoidant.

4)Lastly you can say that you don't have anything to offer her, although this will definetly cut you off from anyone she knows as a possibility. It is probably the fastest most effective way to break off a relationship besides dropping all communication. I wouldn't personally recommend this step unless you are having trouble making it clear in a kinder manner.

All in all, being on decent terms with an ex helps to avoid ugly scenes and you may never know, could even lead to a crazy night at a later time.