Monday, October 29, 2007

Product Illustration

A minute should be taken to appreciate this picture. It is the epitomization of the end goal. Having girls hang off you like that. Jaslene here captures this and projects it very well but you're thinking, 'how can I get girls to hang off of me like that?' Keep reading ; )

Strategy(I): The Nice Guy

This one is usually easyest for quieter, slightly conserved people. Characteristics tend to be good listening, thoughfullness (holding the door), and hopefully a little humour to keep things interesting. Being a nice guy doesn't mean that you stay the whole time at a girl's side. You can keep a little distance but be in the know when it comes to seeing if she wants something. Try to anticipate. Nice guy mixed with intuition can be a deadly effective combination. This is most easily done when you have a middleman for introduction(see Starting Grounds). Buying a distinctive drink for her that you know in advance will go over well is a good move. Improvising with a different drink with the same general type of ingredients is even better, but slightly more risky if she doesn't like it. As the nice guy, you don't make too much chatter, but you should try for an interesting observation with a sideline of humour if you can swing it. An example of this would be pointing out another guy with toilet paper on his shoe, or a ridiculous get-up that someone just walked in the room with. Being enthusiastic about something that's a hobby like stargazing, then following it up with a bashful '...but not too many people find it quite as interesting as I do" or a simple '...I'm a slightly nerdy like that.' with a smile can charm. As you may have noticed, the nice guy approach is probably best done with a slight twist to it. Something a little bit different that isn't expected keeps ladies guessing and wanting more - as long as they like it. Once again, the middleman use comes in handy for these situations. However, if you feel you can read people well enough to get a feel for their interests, it's not necessary. Dressing with style goes well with this seeing as most well-dressed guys will try for an all out 'look at how successful and confident I am' approach. Being enigmatic can be good for you, just keep it to the details - nothing big. Using this as a starting point, you can fill in your strategy making it full bodied for the full effect on ladies.

Starting Grounds

Although you may be ready to go try out a few of the tips given, everyone crawls before they walk. There are situations where it's much easyer to meet and pick up women than walking by them on the street. This is where having a middleman is in your interest. Being able to have someone introduce you says that they credit you as being a good enough person to introduce to their friends. That is what I call a foot in the door. So big deal, you might think, I still have to find something in common so I can talk to her. Wrong. You already have the middleman to talk about. Now it's not exactly polite to talk about the middleman in front of him or her, so give it a few minutes and wait for an opportunity when they leave to get another drink or use the bathroom or something. In the meantime, you can pay attention to the general conversation and see if you can find anything that you can use. This is extremely beneficial since it gives you an inside line right from the start. You can get a feel for the person immediately in a social situation that it's ok not to talk too much right away. This is a lot of pressure released when compared to going solo or in pairs up to ladies that you don't know yet. Now, although having a middleman is beneficial, if you're looking for an easy lay, this is probably not the best time, since it can mess up friendships and possible new opportunities. Despite this, the call is always yours. Just don't let it give you a reputation unless you want it to.

Now that you have a new aquaintance, you can usually do one of two things. Try for the aquaintance, or see if you can get a second introduction to another of her friends. This is where it pays to know a little background information which you can get from your middleman. From there play to your strengths and see if the right situation, atmosphere, and conversation come together in your favour.

Thursday, October 25, 2007

Body Language

Now this is where people make mistakes. Body language can tell people at a glance if you're confident, nervous, unsure of yourself, or just plain thinking about something else. Before you introduce yourself, you need to be able to seem like you have your act together. This means keeping your eyes off the ground along with your head up, shoulders back but not tense. Don't fidget. The last one is important, fidgeting means your mind is elsewhere, thinking about someone/something else, and is an immediate warning sign to ladies that you're not even paying enough attention to carry a decent conversation. While keeping this in mind, use the situation to your advantage. If you can see that both of you enjoyed an ironic of funny moment, catch her eye for a second and flash a smile. If you both end up waiting in a ridiculous line, grimace or roll your eyes a bit. Showing that you both have something in common to talk about, even for a minute, is an opener. For example, if you're both enjoying the pleasure of waiting in the rain, comment on how nice the weather is. A little twist of humour added to a socially normal comment is a good way to probe to see if she's even open to a conversation. However, body language should be constant in these cases. Pay attention to your posture when you're in different moods, and you'll begin to notice that a lot can be seen from a slight shrug, or a slight downturn of the mouth. As you get better at this you will not only be able to emulate whatever emotion suits the mood, but be able to read others better. Remember, body language is the introduction before the introduction. It is the first two steps before a lay-up, the lead in for anything that could follow. It can also be you're downfall. Being aware of messages you give off to others is crucial as well as an extremely useful tool. Use it.

Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Walking the Line

When dating or simply seeing women, there is a fine line to walk when knowing how to keep her wanting more of you. Oddly enough, this involves knowing when NOT to be around. Appreciation of someone can be increased if you notice their absence. Now granted, it is not a good idea to meet her once and never talk to her again - this will not work. So what is the perfect balance to make her want you? Once again this is the fine line. Take for example, the slow route to getting with a woman. You become aquaintances and talk to each other when you see each other and you've been around each other fairly often, say aounrd 5 hours a week or more. Now changing your schedule for a week or so will tell you if this is a good idea next time you see her. If she's wondering where you've been - that's a good sign. Be ready to pick up on any sign that she missed you for one reason or another. If it's simply a polite interest, chances are you should change your approach, or move on. Which you choose is a judgement call. Also, when you see her after being a little scarce, try to make a good impression again. Don't offer to do anything for her, just try to be witty within the first little while of talking to each other again. This can either enhance your standing with her, or nudge her into thinking of you in ways she wasn't before. No matter what, always walk the line. Don't be too available, but be aroudn when needed. You'll have to pay attention to know, but it always pays off when you offer help or do her a favour when she wasn't sure who to turn to. This way, next time she turns, it will be to you.

Friday, October 12, 2007

The Element of Surprise

If you're swinging women, dating women, or in a relationship with one, this part never gets old. Surprising a girl just when she thinks she's getting to know you can be exciting for her. Mystery is always enticing and new, so keeping a little bit of information about yourself can be beneficial. This can be something that you didn't even realize you could use. For example, if I were to have been to Kenya and brought up the topic of travel, she'll be entrigued about it. Now you get to impress her with your 'worldlyness' that she didn't have a clue you had. Knowing your audience is important in this area as well. Most people do have an interest in travelling, so it's a fairly safe bet, but don't come out with anything too left-field(unless she liles that).

After mentioning the little tidbit about yourself, if she's surprised enough to say something along the lines of 'really?' then you can say something along the lines of, 'I must just have a talent for surprising you.' If that's something you can say without going against the grain of your character. The reason for saying you can surprise her so blatently, helps her subconsciously think of you in a mysterious way. However, if you do this only once and continue to be totally predictable, it loses effect.