This one is usually easyest for quieter, slightly conserved people. Characteristics tend to be good listening, thoughfullness (holding the door), and hopefully a little humour to keep things interesting. Being a nice guy doesn't mean that you stay the whole time at a girl's side. You can keep a little distance but be in the know when it comes to seeing if she wants something. Try to anticipate. Nice guy mixed with intuition can be a deadly effective combination. This is most easily done when you have a middleman for introduction(see Starting Grounds). Buying a distinctive drink for her that you know in advance will go over well is a good move. Improvising with a different drink with the same general type of ingredients is even better, but slightly more risky if she doesn't like it. As the nice guy, you don't make too much chatter, but you should try for an interesting observation with a sideline of humour if you can swing it. An example of this would be pointing out another guy with toilet paper on his shoe, or a ridiculous get-up that someone just walked in the room with. Being enthusiastic about something that's a hobby like stargazing, then following it up with a bashful '...but not too many people find it quite as interesting as I do" or a simple '...I'm a slightly nerdy like that.' with a smile can charm. As you may have noticed, the nice guy approach is probably best done with a slight twist to it. Something a little bit different that isn't expected keeps ladies guessing and wanting more - as long as they like it. Once again, the middleman use comes in handy for these situations. However, if you feel you can read people well enough to get a feel for their interests, it's not necessary. Dressing with style goes well with this seeing as most well-dressed guys will try for an all out 'look at how successful and confident I am' approach. Being enigmatic can be good for you, just keep it to the details - nothing big. Using this as a starting point, you can fill in your strategy making it full bodied for the full effect on ladies.
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