Body Language

Now this is where people make mistakes. Body language can tell people at a glance if you're confident, nervous, unsure of yourself, or just plain thinking about something else. Before you introduce yourself, you need to be able to seem like you have your act together. This means keeping your eyes off the ground along with your head up, shoulders back but not tense. Don't fidget. The last one is important, fidgeting means your mind is elsewhere, thinking about someone/something else, and is an immediate warning sign to ladies that you're not even paying enough attention to carry a decent conversation. While keeping this in mind, use the situation to your advantage. If you can see that both of you enjoyed an ironic of funny moment, catch her eye for a second and flash a smile. If you both end up waiting in a ridiculous line, grimace or roll your eyes a bit. Showing that you both have something in common to talk about, even for a minute, is an opener. For example, if you're both enjoying the pleasure of waiting in the rain, comment on how nice the weather is. A little twist of humour added to a socially normal comment is a good way to probe to see if she's even open to a conversation. However, body language should be constant in these cases. Pay attention to your posture when you're in different moods, and you'll begin to notice that a lot can be seen from a slight shrug, or a slight downturn of the mouth. As you get better at this you will not only be able to emulate whatever emotion suits the mood, but be able to read others better. Remember, body language is the introduction before the introduction. It is the first two steps before a lay-up, the lead in for anything that could follow. It can also be you're downfall. Being aware of messages you give off to others is crucial as well as an extremely useful tool. Use it.