The Mindset

Now, I know you're looking for the answer of 'How do I pick up women?' but you're asking the wrong qestion already. What you should be asking is 'How should I approach picking up women?'. This is because if you go in with a pre-set list of lines you'll be dead in the water faster than you can say shout 'I WANT SEX!'. So bear with me, because the mindset to approaching women is important. Take business men for example. If you ever see them talking in a 'casual' setting you'll notice that they don't always say things straight out. They tend to dance around the subject, but you can still figure out by what they do and don't say that the guy on the blue suit wants to buy the guy in the black suit's business, but doesn't want to be left with a lemon for an investment. If you've seen a few of these transactions you'll notice that they tend to be more relaxed and confident than the situation warrants. This is because they've learned from experience you don't get information by being nervous, and people are more likely to trust and be open with an easygoing person. Although this seems like a simple concept, being able to stay relaxed in a situation with intensity or in a situation that matters to you isn't always easy.

The first step is to relax. Now take another breath, and relax again. One big deterrent is being uncomfortable in situations in which you think you have a chance, but as soon as you think that, you become all rigid, and the normal person you were two seconds ago becomes a rigid, awkward mess. So, how to avoid putting your foor in your mouth? Well there's a few approaches, but a good way to think of it is like making public speeches. You want good eye contact without staring to start with. If you have a mental preparation method for speeches - use it. Although as a side note, picturing girls in their underwear as you try to pick them up doesn't mix that well. What works for me is thinking of it like a game. This helps because you can take the situation less seriously allowing you to free your thoughts a bit. This means that instead of thinking about what she makes of you, you're thinking about what to say next. Which in turn means you have something more intelligent to say than 'uuuh'. Body language is important so don't stand ramrod straight but don't slouch - be relaxed. Respect other people's space. Talking from the distance of 4 inches away is not good. About armslength away is a good distance. Don't look down or at her breasts as you talk because it's disrespectful and will get you nowhere. But most of all keep that relaxed mindset and win or lose, be out to have a good time. As soon as the stakes are mentally lowered, your chances are literally increased. Keep in mind that girls do in fact like personality, so just be yourself, play to your natural strengths and enjoy yourself.