Music, I think, is responsible for a lot of misguided dating and relationship direction. You constantly hear about how the author of the song will 'give anything' or 'bleed themselves dry' for the girl they love. Now devotion is a good thing, don't get me wrong, but a relationship and dating is not about you sacrificing and giving over and over. This attitude is wrong for dating and relationships for different reasons.
When it comes to dating if you start off and continue to give everything for the girl she will either be uncomfortable for being placed on some kind of pedestal or she will take advantage of you. Non-stop giving shows that you care, but it also shows that you don't know any other way to treat girls. As much as you think they might like being 'worshipped' they don't want to date someone who can't see them as a person. It can also give the impression that you have a a set of ideals they have to live up to. Ladies like having to live up to ideals as much as they like being told what to do. So for dating, there are a few reasons why non-stop giving is a bad idea.
When it comes to relationships, there can be sacrifice involved to make it work, but lets face it, it's either give-and-take or you're being used. For both cases, that's not to say a little bit of a present or surprise is unwelcome, but if you do it every day, it's not a surprise, and it becomes a habit that can make you feel obligated to do it. So save yourself the complications, because it doesn't work, and it earns you the boring reputation of being at any girls beck and call.
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